Boundries - not so clear anymore

I've been reading The Pastor's Husband after Erin turned me on to it. It is interesting to read another dude perspective on being married into the Church. It also has inspired me to write a bit more about that experience.

I have a problem, there isn't an idea that passes through my head that I don't feel like I should share. Being a bit arrogant - ok maybe a lot arrogant - I think that most of my thoughts are worth sharing, you know to raise the level of discourse in the world.

That becomes a problem when I'm a participant in a study that Erin is leading. I know more than the average participant because I live with the leader. I know the opinions she has on these topics when no one else is around and she can say how she feels at that moment without reservation.

And as all people, Erin will adjust some of her speech and tone to the audience. Last night I called her out on that a bit, and that wasn't fair. It is a learning process for me to understand that if I'm going to go to things as a parishioner then I need to think like one too and "forget" about all the other things I know about Erin. Like she often forgets to take eye-shadow off so when she wakes up there is a line of it across her eyelids in a funny and cute way :)

Being a Pastor's husband is an experience, and I'm glad I'm learning the ropes this year so I don't screw it up when it might really matter.